Zeno Charity: Catching Up With Past ‘Lifer’ Employee Robert Escalera

Sometimes people say nice things about my clubbing career, citing successful clubs as proof of an outstanding legacy. Some might say I started this or that, or was the first here or there. The legacy that I am most proud of is the success of those who worked with me, and a group of co-workers that became lifelong friends that I refer to as my family. Most of these folks met and lived at my joint Life, and are indeed brothers and sisters to this day. Sadly, most live out in Venice, California, rearing gorgeous babies, hiking, and cooking meals for each other. It’s only a matter of time until I, too, bask by the Pacific. This week members of my clan, Robert Escalera and Patty Doria, return to the East for a soiree to benefit Zeno Mountain Farm.

I caught up with Robert and asked him about the Zeno Mountain Farm benefit, which he’s helping to put together. The film, shot at “Actor’s Camp,” will be shown on Saturday, June 11th at 8pm at the Tribeca Film Centre at 57 Varick St. There will partying after, and I have promised to actually get plastered—something I only do 2 or 3 times a year (whenever I have sex).

What are you up to these days? I am the food and beverage manager for the Poolside Restaurant at The Standard Hollywood and I love it. I have always had a great deal of respect for the Andre Balazs brand and how it maintains its cultural integrity. Having never worked at a hotel before, I was intimidated by being responsible for food and beverage for a property that has room service for 139 rooms, a 24-hour coffee shop, and the poolside restaurant. My fears dissipated rapidly though. The bulk of our business is repeat and we pride ourselves on having guests consider us their second home. I also really love and respect the people I work with which, as you know, makes the world of difference. I know it sounds cheesy but I really love my job and I love how supportive they are to the arts. I’m getting a little long in the tooth and it’s good to work for a company that I believe in, where I can have upward mobility as opposed to just working for money.

I know you’ve been around forever but how did you get started in nightlife? I was in Miami working as a model when I met Chris Paciello at a club he owned called Micky’s with Mickey Rourke. He offered to pay me a couple hundred bucks to bring my friends and said we would all get in for free and get free drinks. I was very confused, and was convinced there must besome ulterior motive. Now in hindsight it made perfect sense. I was always the ringleader and the go-to guy whenever people wanted to go out. I was at castings for work with pretty people all day, so who better to spread the word about your venue?

I remember DJing your Halloween event with BlackBook at The Standard, Hollywood that also benefited Zeno Mountain Farm, how did you get involved and what exactly do you guys do? I’ve always felt hugely blessed and with that gratitude had a sense of responsibility. I remember when I worked at Life I would volunteer at God’s Love We Deliver every Wednesday, and you would ask me why I felt the need. I guess I need to compensate for the superficiality of my life with something that is inherently gratifying, and mine. The story of how I got involved is also a serendipitous one. I was staying with your ex Kelly in Venice and one of my close friends I grew up with was coming to LA to do camp. It turns out camp was literally not even a block from her house. The second I visited I was hooked. It really is the most magical place— full of pure, unadulterated fun. I had just committed to doing two weeks, and immediately got a call from The Standard that I was hired. It was a scary decision to tell the job I had sought that I had a prior engagement for two weeks and would not be able to start until after. I went to camp thinking I would help people but what I never expected was to be the one being helped.

Zeno Mountain Farm is a true grass-roots non-profit camps that supports fun and friendships between people with and without disabilities. Our campers range in age (from 19 to 68 years-old). There are different camps throughout the country, with different focuses, to allow everyone within our unique community the ability to take part in either a creative, or athletic coalition. For the Music camp everyone takes part in writing, producing, and performing a song which we then record in a music studio and make into a music video. For our current camp, Actors Camp in Venice, we write, produce and film a movie in which everyone at camp is a star. At Ski Camp and Summer Camp in Vermont there are a various sporting events where every team has the chance to win the illustrious “Cheshire Cup” and a great deal of bragging rights. A lot of our campers would never have the opportunity to do the the things or activities we take for granted. In many cases Zeno Mountain is the only time where the campers are not among a family member or caretaker who is getting paid to be with them. At the end of the day, I finally found my true passion. In order to fund camp we have a variety of benefits throughout the year such as the upcoming premiere of the movie we filmed at last year’s Actor’s Camp, with the after party immediately following so bring your dancing shoes.

How can we help? Raise awareness! Adults with disabilities have a much smaller support group as parents die and siblings get their own families. Even those with support rarely have the chance to just have fun. Like us on facebook and come to one of our premieres. Go to our website and donate to zenomountainfarm.org. Get involved!

What was it like working for me in NYC back in the day? What’s that quote? “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times”? I honestly owe you a huge debt—most everything I know, and my closest friends are because of you. The magic of Steve Lewis is that he is always one step ahead of the game. I remember working at Life and thinking that you had put together such motley crew of people that made no sense. Those people have become my family. I lost my father when I was six years old, and frankly you are the closest thing I’ve ever had. That being said, how many times did I quit or was fired? I think the only reason you trusted me so much was because your dog “Arturo” loved me. For the record, I’m still one of the few people he hasn’t bit. I think that says something about my character. Who can forget the nonsense you put me through? Remember when at Life we were having a huge Tibetan fundraiser hosted by Richard Gere? I’m walking his publicist around the club and green room and going through his rider and you storm in with a look on your face and begin to tell that joke…

We can’t tell that story here but I promise to tell it to people who ask me in person! Or the time you decided to take me to Miami for my birthday. First of all you were loving the fact that everyone thought you were my sugar daddy because we were literally running around with inches of hundred dollar bills and sending the bottles of Veuve Cliqout that club owners were sending us as a courtesy to the random table next to us, and ordering bottle after bottle of Cristal. Then you decided it would be a brilliant idea to take me to Club Madonna (a strip club) on my actual birthday, and give a bunch of strippers a ton of money to forcibly carry me on stage and proceed to take off my clothes and stand there bare…

OK again—what happens with Steve Lewis stays with Steve Lewis.How are you liking Los Angeles, and why did you move? With the economy doing so poorly it became a full time job just to get paid from the clubs, and my tribe and I were collectively over it. Despite your story that Charo is my mom and I’m a trust funder, I still had to work. I started doing a bunch of consulting jobs for restaurants and nightclubs all over the country. I did a job outside of Chicago for six months then was in Miami for another job for a couple months. I was at the penthouse of the Viceroy in Miami by the pool on a gorgeous night as winter was beginning to descend on New York and decided that was how I wanted to live. It was the first time in my adult life that I didn’t have responsibilities forcing back to the city. I told the friends I was with that I wasn’t going back to New York. They got excited thinking I was staying there. There bubble was burst when I told them I was moving to Los Angeles. I love it out here, and I think it’s one of the best decisions I’ve made. Don’t get me wrong—I love New York, but I kind of feel like it’s for the young or the wealthy. I had the time of my life in the city, but now life is just nice. Instead of being out until all hours of the night, we barbecue or go hiking. Besides, most of our family is out here. You keep threatening to come out, is that ever going to happen?

What is your craziest club memory? My God, where do I start? Hosting a pajama birthday party at Life for Rue Mclanahan and having her carried out in lingerie on a sleigh buy scantily clad go-go boys. Or when Jocelyne Wildenstein won her settlement and I decided we should have a party for her celebrating her divorce. I was photographed walking her in and down the stairs. The next day I get a call from my mom asking if I was dating her because it was all over the press that i was her new beau. Life was by far the best club I’ve ever been to not to mention worked at. I consider it the Studio 54 of my generation, but the shenanigans that went on there were the stuff of legends, and I would be disrespecting the trust put on us as club operators if I betrayed that.

Cant wait to see you guys!

BlackBook Staff Picks: Dining, Drinking, Shopping, & Staying

Here at BlackBook, we pay a lot of attention to where cool customers go out — bars, clubs, restaurants, shops, hotels, you name it. So why not flip the frame and let you see where we go out? Here’s a periodically updated, exhaustive list of hotspots currently favored by everyone at BlackBook, from the mighty bosses down to the humble interns, from the charming local lounges around the corner to the jet-setting temples of luxe living.

BLACKBOOK MEDIA CORP ● Chairman – Bob Hoff, Voyeur (LA) ● CEO – Ari Horowitz, W South Beach (Miami) ● Associate Publisher – Brett Wagner, Da Umberto (NYC) ● Director of Finance and Operations – Tim Umstead, Aquagrill (NYC) ● Corporate Counsel – Drew Patrick, El Ay Si (NYC) ● Executive Assistant – Bridgette Bek, Manhattan Inn (NYC)

EDITORIAL ● Creative Director – Jason Daniels, Morimoto (NYC) ● Vice President Content – Chris Mohney, This Little Piggy Had Roast Beef (NYC) ● Senior Editor – Nick Haramis, Freemans (NYC) ● Features Editor – Willa Paskin, The Sackett (NYC) ● Writer-at-Large – Alison Powell, Jean Philippe Patisserie (Las Vegas) ● Nightlife Correspondent – Steve Lewis, subMercer (NYC) ● Assistant Editors – Ben Barna, LeVack Block (Toronto), Cayte Grieve, Vince (NYC), Foster Ethan Kamer, Sel De Mer (NYC), Eiseley Tauginas, Maialino (NYC) ● Copy Editor – Michèle Filon, Michael’s Genuine Food & Drink (Miami) ● Editorial Interns – Megan LaBruna, Crash Mansion (NYC), Averie Timm, Madiba (NYC), Hillary Weston, Les Halles (NYC), Annie Werner, DBGB (NYC), Ashley Simpson, Barcade (NYC), Michael Jordan, Destination Bar & Grill (NYC)

ART ● Art Director – Amy Steinhauser, Union Pool (NYC) ● Assistant Designer – Serra Semi, Five Points (NYC) ● Photography Assistant – Stephanie Swanicke, Provocateur (NYC) ● Freelance Designer – Krista Quick, Fornino (NYC)

FASHION & BEAUTY ● Fashion Editor – Christopher Campbell, Grand Sichuan International (NYC) ● Fashion Interns – Jillian K. Aurrichio, Greenhouse (NYC), Anabele Netter, Il Buco (NYC), Nicole Applewhite, Vanilla Bake Shop (NYC), Deanna Clevesy, Tao (NYC)

ADVERTISING ● Senior Account Executive – Dina Matar, Blue Duck Tavern (Washington, DC) ● Executive Director, BlackBook Access – Gregg Berger, Charles (NYC) ● Advertising Director – Michelle Koruda, Supper (NYC) ● Detroit Account Executives – Jeff Hannigan, The Lodge (Chicago), Kristen von Bernthal, Pukk (NYC) ● Midwest Account Executives – Susan Welter, Old Town Social (Chicago), Andrea Forrester, Tuman’s (Chicago) ● Southwest Account Executive – Molly Ballantine, The Tar Pit (LA) ● Northwest Account Executives – Catherine Hurley, Flora (Oakland), Shawn O’Meara, Nopalito (San Francisco)

MARKETING ● Marketing Manager – Julie Fabricant, Eponymy (NYC) ● Partnerships & Promotions Manager – Andrew Berman, Bozu (NYC) ● Interns – Adam Meshekow, Ronnybrook Milk Bar (NYC), Kayla Gambino, Grom (NYC), Marie Baginski, Stir (NYC)

DIGITAL ● Director of Development – Daniel Murphy, Standard (Miami) ● Developer – Bastian Kuberek, Greenhouse (NYC) ● Developer – Dan Simon, Hudson Terrace (NYC) ● Designer – Matt Strmiska, Uchi (Austin) ● Developer – Sam Withrow, Phone Booth (San Francisco) ● Quality Assurance Engineer – Sunde Johnson, Ginger’s Bar (NYC) ● Mobile Developer – Otto Toth, Alloro (NYC)

NYC: All the Week’s Parties, Fashion Week Is Upon Us

“We’re trying to keep it beachy but not too homeless-looking,” stylist Dennis Lanni said about the hair at Lacoste during last February’s Fall Fashion Week. As Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week 2010 kicks off today, alongside Blizzard Week 2010, the fashionistas descending upon Bryant Park can only hope to walk that fine line themselves. You may end up on the side of homeless-looking, lest you have your own personal umbrella holder, Jimmy Choo buffer and car service to the tents, but that doesn’t mean you should stay away. Stuff your feet into your LL Bean waterproof blizzard-booties and hit up the after parties. Because who needs the shows when you have free booze? If you’re the fashion-y type, but not exactly the fashion show type, the Barneys Warehouse sale starts this week. If you couldn’t give a hoot about fashion week, free booze or warehouse sales, there are a few good shows to snow-shoe your way to. For shows of a different kind, head up to Bryan Park and watch show-goers slip and eat it in their couture. Lord knows I might be one of them.

Eclectic, Straight WEDNESDAY

Lowdown: Today it begins! Models in pubs, designers blowing off steam and visiting their good, club-owing friends, celebrities here to show face and drink their faces off. Hot Now:Le Cubain (Lower East Side) – Great spot for pre-drinks and cheap eat with babes with bangs in boots and vintage fur coats. Maybe even make it downstairs for a Chloe revival — bottle models pack it in pre-1Oak and Boom Boom Room. ● 1Oak (Chelsea) – This is still 1Oak’s undisputed hot night. Tonight DJ VICE spins. ● Greenhouse (Soho) – BlackFun (indieelectropopbangers) take over the party along with banter & booze from Marc Alan + Kieren+ Mike de Guzman+Joey Nova+ Valerie Termini+Anna Maltezos & Friends. (hint: these are names to drop @ the door kiddies.) ● Avenue (Chelsea) – Again, Avenue. But this is a raging night for the kids on the Ave. ● SL (Meatpacking District) – Tonight is the night for this Aalex Julian-guarded door. ● subMercer(Soho) – You may have forgotten about this celeb-laden underground, but she’s back, along with her FAM (Friends and Music). Featuring Gabby, Richard and Tariq.

Meet The FAM – 8pm Wednesdays @ subMercer from Tariq Abdus-Sabur on Vimeo.

Su Casa (Greenwich Village)- The kids from Upstairs (remember Upstairs? Leo Di doesn’t either) are putting together this new party. Heavy on the gays and the girls. ● Southside (Nolita) – Tutti, Franco, and Brion run the DJ booth. If you think you know, you have no idea. ● Eldridge (Lower East Side) – Rock and roll, yes. Von (Noho) – Party in the basement is “pretty packed and a lot of fun” for the Noho set after 10pm. image Other Things to Try:About Town: Svedka Sessions kicks off fashion week at the Hudson Hotel with performances from Amanda Blank and Daniel Merriweather to benefit Haiti, while Rebecca Minkoff celebrates with an a party at Underbar with Michelle Trachtenberg, Agyness Deyn, and Erin Lucas gracing the W with their lovely presence. Gen Art’s “The New Garde” is presented by Plastics Make it Possible, and will feature fashion presentations and Molly Sims @ Drive Inn Studios.

THURSDAY

Lowdown: This is Manhattanites’ Friday night. Whipped has moved to Baddies, but the party keeps on trucking, leaving nobody to say; “I can’t believe it’s not Butter!” Hot Now:CV (Lower East Side) – Something has finally been done with the over-saturated spot formerly known as 105 Rivington. Hopefully Amanda Leigh will continue with the feel good vibes and attract a good, loyal crowd. ● BEast(Chinatown) – Main Man, Ryan McGinley’s night of debauchery, is still in swing. Expect a Misshape or two, Sophia Lamar, and a band of insiders. ● Coffee Shop (Union Square) – One of the true day clubs, chocked full of promoters networking via text message; the basement named USL will be making random appearances throughout the week. Avenue, Boom Boom Room and 1Oak are still a great standby for good times, while the down belows like Macao’s basement opium den, is also great. ● Baddies (West Village) – The former Butter party was moved around until it finally flew to coop to the basement bar of Kingswood. Resident hipster DJs Matt & Maia draw out big name fashion folks like Alexander Wang and the Ronsons. Other Things to Try:About Town: Did you just hear that? That was the sound of a middle-aged women tackling a thirty-something gay man with the last pair of Tory Burch sandals in his hand, which can only mean that today, the Barneys Warehouse sale commences (through February 28th). Oh you meant the sound of Voguettes clacking around Bryant Park? That’s because the Mercedes-Benz Fashion Week officially begins. Also check out L’uomo Vogue as they celebrate @ the John Varvatos Fashion Week Party. GQ + CFDA present The Best New Menswear Designers in America at the glorious IAC building from 7-9pm, and Dead Man’s Bones play at the Los Angeles Based Clothing Brand *LnA* for their presentation and after-party @ Milk Studios from 9pm-12am.

FRIDAY

Lowdown: Are Fridays cool again? Hot Now:Boom Boom Room (Meatpacking District) – You probably won’t make it in like the rest of the plebeians (us included), but if you could, this would be the night to go. ● The Standard Grill (Meatpacking District) – What’s that, didn’t make it in to Boom? Luckily, the Grill is jumping with everyone else who tried their luck and are now eating duck (or crow); even the most beautiful, classy folks gather here, so it’s a hotspot nonetheless. ● Home Sweet Home (Lower East Side) – Jonathan Toubin brings the fairly popular New York Night Train to this little living room on Friday nights. ● Santos’ Party House (Chinatown) – A Tribe Called Quest’s Q-Tip. Upstairs. Funk. Other Things to Try:About Town: F♥CK YOU x F♥CK ME (I just love writing that) comes to INVEN.TORY courtesy of Seasick Mama and the photography of Casey Randerson, a favorite of the downtown set. DJs Harley and Cassie celebrate their Paper Nightlife Award for “Best DJ Win” at Marquee, and Charlotte Ronson brings out the best of the downtowners for her after-party at Avenue.

SATURDAY

Lowdown: Whether you are above or below 14th Street, you should probably be planning on going out somewhere near to or below 14th Street. Hot Now:Boom Boom Room (Meatpacking District) – Again, try your luck. ● Lit Lounge (East Village) – Saturday night is grimy and fun! ● Bowery Hotel (East Village) – Simonez throws ragers here, spanning Thursday, Friday, and Saturday night. Other Things to Try:About Town: No you haven’t drank your way to St. Patty’s day; it’s just the 12th Annual Luck of the Irish Pub Crawl, starting at 11:30am at Village Pourhouse. Speaking of stuff hipsters hate, GlassLands Gallery hosts the Tumblr blog Stuff Hipsters Hate as they celebrate their newly minted book deal.

SUNDAY

Lowdown: Sundays have been a solid party night, even through the bluster of the winter season. Hot Now:GoldBar (Nolita) – Frequented by the Ronson clan and celebfolk who go unrecognized by a collection of spendy bankers. A favorite amongst models, Danny Masterson, and DJ Jesse Marco. ● Sway (Sway) – Moroccan themed bar has become the Pants on the Ground song. Sort of creepy, but a guilty pleasure and viral. ● Greenhouse (Soho) – The Van Dam party begs the question: Where is Jean Claude Van Dam? ● White Slab Palace (Lower East Side) – Another odd place to stumble into late night. Hit or miss and always a “Where did all of these people come from?” moment. Other Things To Try:Free Booze: Home Sweet Home tries to offer an alterna-Sway with their new Sunday party, N.W.N.S (No Way No Sway). Enjoy an open vodka bar from 10:30pm-11pm with no cover. If you’re looking for some Brooklyn brew, check out Savalas for “Shake Your Brass Sundays with Wolff” night. They’re hawking free Yuengling from 8-9pm. ● About Town: And speaking of White Slab Palace ” title=”White Slab Palace”>White Slab Palace, Richard Chai has it as his chosen venue for his LOVE Launch Party.

MONDAY

Lowdown: Monday night is for getting rid of your Sunday hangover. Hot Now:Stanton Social (Lower East Side) – Yes, still a great place to have a fun bite/Monday night drinks. ● Butter (Noho) – Not only is this a truly great place to get sloshed on Mondays, I am now excited to admit it. There’s a cool, younger crowd that’s mixing in on Mondays and adding a bit of an edge to the festivities. ● Black & White (Greenwich Village) – Restaurant becomes cramped, sexy, and very cozy after ten. ● Johnny Utah’s (Midtown West) Football season is over, but it’s still industry night here. Other Things to Try:About Town: Tegan & Sara play Music Hall of Williamsburg. ●Free Booze: I’ve yet to check it out, but the Arcade party comes to Darkroom with free vodka and free cover from 11-12pm, while Danzie and James Morley spin.

TUESDAY

Lowdown: Fashion week comes to a close, so get your last drop of freebie booze and your final fix of celeb stalking. Hot Now:Rose Bar (Gramercy) – This really has a lot to do with Nur Khan, who is pairing up with Paul Sevigny on the next New York hot spot, Kenmare. ● Avenue (Chelsea) – People were astounded to find this place under our Tuesday heading: “Duh, the hot nights are Monday and Wednesday, obvi.” Those people are right, but those people have never known the true Bea. And really, Avenue is good every night — right? ● 1Oak (Chelsea) – Right around the corner, the one-of-a-kind kids get the spillage of displaced hipster kids, who can’t decide between one gilded lounge or the other. Again, people agreed to disagree — and with a name like “Tight Jean Tuesday,” we know Jay-Z’s knots don’t fit. ● SL (Meatpacking District) – Might be able to add another notch on its belt; Tuesdays are hot at SL. ● Greenhouse (Soho) – Green followers love Tuesdays too. Other Things to Try:About Town: Walter’s Fall 2010 After Party is at 9:00pm at The Eldridge. ●Free Booze: It’s Trainwreck Tuesday at Angels & Kings. This means two open vodka bars with no cover. The first freebie power half-hour: 10pm-10:30pm, the second from 1-1:30am. Happy Ending has free vodka from 11-12am at their weekly Disco Down party with 66Sick, and Brooklyn’s Glasslands Gallery for Todd & Harrison’s Tuesday Night Disco. This means free absinthe and live music with a $7 cover. Darkroom has a dark vodka power hour from 11-12am with 24Court spinning.

NYC: All the Week’s Parties, Steve Lewis’s Birthday and Superbowl Sunday

Socials and fashionistas might be fasting in prep for Fashion Week, but we take the side of Ernest Hemingway, who said “Drinking is a way of ending the day.” This week, with the Superbowl taking over pubs, Steve Lewis is taking over Lit for birthday party and drinkers taking over the MoMa for First Thursdays, there are plenty of ways to end the day well. If you aren’t in the mood for hooch, there are events for talking about alcohol, a giant Sleepover party and cozy cupcake affairs.

Eclectic, StraightTUESDAY

Lowdown: The hipsters infiltrate the clubs, Nur Kahn maintains at Rose Bar, and our dearest Steve Lewis has a Birthday! Hot Now:Rose Bar (Gramercy) – This really has a lot to do with Nur Khan, and now the music enthusiast is upping his game with Nur Kahn’s Rose Bar Sessions, featuring a band every Tuesday night. But they are secret shows. So shh. ● Avenue (Chelsea) – People were astounded to find this place under our Tuesday heading: “Duh, the hot nights are Monday and Wednesday, obvi.” Those people are right, but those people have never known the true Bea. And really, Avenue is good every night — right? ● 1Oak (Chelsea) – Right around the corner, the one-of-a-kind kids get the spillage of displaced hipster kids, who can’t decide between one gilded lounge or the other. Again, people agreed to disagree — and with a name like “Tight Jean Tuesday,” we know Jay-Z’s knots don’t fit. ●Superdive(East Village) – Champagne Tuesdays. Champagne in a dive bar. Say no more. ● SL (Meatpacking District) – Might be able to add another notch on its belt; Tuesdays are hot at SL. ● Greenhouse (Soho) – Green followers love Tuesdays too. Other Things to Try:About Town: Lit, which has been under fire from the health department for lighting up will be hosting Good Night Mr. Lewis’ birthday bash tonight. Bring ear plugs, Steve is playing DJ (I kid Steve! You’re a musical talent!!) ●Free Booze: It’s Trainwreck Tuesday at Angels & Kings. This means two open vodka bars with no cover. The first freebie power half-hour: 10pm-10:30pm, the second from 1-1:30am. Happy Ending has free vodka from 11-12am at their weekly Disco Down party with 66Sick, and Brooklyn’s Glasslands Gallery has free beer from 9-10pm with live performances by War Game, Workout and Hallelujah.

WEDNESDAY

Lowdown: Hump day isn’t just for humping. Hot Now:Le Cubain (Lower East Side) – Great spot for pre-drinks and cheap eat with babes with bangs in boots and vintage fur coats. Maybe even make it downstairs for a Chloe revival — bottle models pack it in pre-1Oak and Boom Boom Room. ● 1Oak (Chelsea) – This is still 1Oak’s undisputed hot night. ● Greenhouse (Soho) – This one is in the basement, kids. Well, it’s in the whole of Greenhouse, but it’s better down below. ● Avenue (Chelsea) – Again, Avenue. But this is a raging night for the kids on the Ave. ● SL (Meatpacking District) – Tonight is the night for this Aalex Julian-guarded door. ● subMercer(Soho) – You may have forgotten about this celeb-laden underground, but she’s back, along with her FAM (Friends and Music). Featuring Gabby, Richard and Tariq.

Meet The FAM – 8pm Wednesdays @ subMercer from Tariq Abdus-Sabur on Vimeo.

Su Casa (Greenwich Village)- The kids from Upstairs (remember Upstairs? Leo Di doesn’t either) are putting together this new party. Heavy on the gays and the girls. ● Southside (Nolita) – Tutti, Franco, and Brion run the DJ booth. If you think you know, you have no idea. ● Eldridge (Lower East Side) – Rock and roll, yes. Von (Noho) – Party in the basement is “pretty packed and a lot of fun” for the Noho set after 10pm. image Other Things to Try:About Town:The Constellations play Brooklyn Bowl, Royal Wednesdays @ Le Souk Harem tries to bring some heat to Wednesdays, and if you have 1K for a ticket or 10K for a table, then clear your calendars for International Women’s Health Coalition 2010 Gala @ Cipriani’s 42nd Street. Having a Julie & Julia moment? Tom Colicchio, Dan Barber, Jacques Torres and Andre Soltner get together for a Doing What You Love talk at 8pm at 92Y

THURSDAY

Lowdown: This is Manhattanites’ Friday night, which explains why Butter is moved their dancey Friday party — Whipped — to Thursdays. Dancing, dinner, glitz, and even some glam, without the B&T jam. Hot Now:CV (Lower East Side) – Something has finally been done with the over-saturated spot formerly known as 105 Rivington. Hopefully Amanda Leigh will continue with the feel good vibes and attract a good, loyal crowd. ● BEast(Chinatown) – Main Man, Ryan McGinley’s night of debauchery, is still in swing. Expect a Misshape or two, Sophia Lamar, and a band of insiders. ● Coffee Shop (Union Square) – One of the true day clubs, chocked full of promoters networking via text message; the basement named USL will be making random appearances throughout the week. Avenue, Boom Boom Room and 1Oak are still a great standby for good times, while the down belows like Macao’s basement opium den, is also great. ● Butter (Noho) – Thursday-night party Whipped is so fresh, most can’t believe it’s Butter. Resident hipster DJs Matt & Maia draw out big name fashion folks like Alexander Wang and the Ronsons. Other Things to Try:About Town: Kiss & Fly reopens with a new look, hopefully a look that will be more conductive to maintaining a vibe of any kind. Marissa Meltzer celebrates her new book Girl Power: The Nineties Revolution in Music at Pianos (totes crashing), and it’s the First Thursday of the Month at MoMa, a night in which the museum stasy open until 8:45 pm with gallery talks, audio tours, and film screenings that are free with the price of admission. Drinkers: the main atrium will have a cash bar.

FRIDAY

Lowdown: Are Fridays cool again? Hot Now:Boom Boom Room (Meatpacking District) – You probably won’t make it in like the rest of the plebeians (us included), but if you could, this would be the night to go. ● The Standard Grill (Meatpacking District) – What’s that, didn’t make it in to Boom? Luckily, the Grill is jumping with everyone else who tried their luck and are now eating duck (or crow); even the most beautiful, classy folks gather here, so it’s a hotspot nonetheless. ● Home Sweet Home (Lower East Side) – Jonathan Toubin brings the fairly popular New York Night Train to this little living room on Friday nights. ● Santos’ Party House (Chinatown) – A Tribe Called Quest’s Q-Tip. Upstairs. Funk. Other Things to Try:About Town: Ra Ra Riot and The Antlers play BAM, Hotchip plays the Highline Ballroom and RuPaul is at Borders at Columbus Circle to sign books at 7 p.m. If you want something a little more low key, go talk about the 10 Most Famous Hotel Bars (and their 10 Best Cocktails) at the Astor Center at 6:30 p.m.

SATURDAY

Lowdown: Whether you are above or below 14th Street, you should probably be planning on going out somewhere near to or below 14th Street. Hot Now:Boom Boom Room (Meatpacking District) – Again, try your luck. ● Lit Lounge (East Village) – Saturday night is grimy and fun! ● Bowery Hotel (East Village) – Simonez throws ragers here, spanning Thursday, Friday, and Saturday night. Other Things to Try:About Town:The Ritz Carlton Central Park begins its annual “Valentine Cupcake Tea”, which is a great way to spend lazy weekends in cozy and expensive knitwear if you have the $28 bucks to spend on cupcakes, tea or hot chocolate. The LOOM Party, which is a month long art installation at 1087 Flushing Avenue in Brooklyn, kicks off with free beer all night, sponsored and VICE Magazine. Also, get out your footie pajamas, it’s the Sleepover at the American Museum of Natural History!

Superbowl SUNDAY

Lowdown: Sundays have been a solid party night, even through the bluster of the winter season. Hot Now:GoldBar (Nolita) – Frequented by the Ronson clan and celebfolk who go unrecognized by a collection of spendy bankers. A favorite amongst models, Danny Masterson, and DJ Jesse Marco. ● Sway (Sway) – Moroccan themed bar has become the Pants on the Ground song. Sort of creepy, but a guilty pleasure and viral. ● Greenhouse (Soho) – The Van Dam party begs the question: Where is Jean Claude Van Dam? ● White Slab Palace (Lower East Side) – Another odd place to stumble into late night. Hit or miss and always a “Where did all of these people come from?” moment. Other Things To Try:Free Booze: Home Sweet Home tries to offer an alterna-Sway with their new Sunday party, N.W.N.S (No Way No Sway). Enjoy an open vodka bar from 10:30pm-11pm with no cover. If you’re looking for some Brooklyn brew, check out Savalas for “Shake Your Brass Sundays with Wolff” night. They’re hawking free Yuengling from 8-9pm. ● Superbowl Sunday: It’s a given that the sports-loving venue trio Hudson Terrace, Village Pourhouse & Sidebar will be up to some antics. Lucky Strike Lanes and Lounge in Manhattan is having a Super Bowling party with an open bar from 6-9pm, a ribs and wings buffet, and 21 big screens. You should probably get your tickets in advance (like, now). If you’re a Saints fan, get down to your southern roots at an all-you-can-eat Super Bowl Buffet at B.B. Kings Blues Club at 5:30 p.m.

MONDAY

Lowdown: Monday night means getting rid of your Sunday hangover. Hot Now:Stanton Social (Lower East Side) – Yes, still a great place to have a fun bite/Monday night drinks. ● Butter (Noho) – Not only is this a truly great place to get sloshed on Mondays, I am now excited to admit it. There’s a cool, younger crowd that’s mixing in on Mondays and adding a bit of an edge to the festivities. ● Black & White (Greenwich Village) – Restaurant becomes cramped, sexy, and very cozy after ten. ● Johnny Utah’s (Midtown West) Football season is over, but it’s still industry night here. Other Things to Try:About Town: On the 8th Yeasayer plays the Bowery BallroomFree Booze: I’ve yet to check it out, but the Arcade party comes to Darkroom with free vodka and free cover from 11-12pm, while Danzie and James Morley spin.