The Domi Dollz Bring the Kink This Thursday

Did you ever call someone, and they told you they couldn’t chat because they "were all tied up?" Well, they may have been talking literally. This Thursday, a group of very experienced ladies operating under the name Domi Dollz, will host an event which is meant to educate those who want to know more about the gentle art of BDSM. With sex being a top 5 Family Feud answer to why people go out at night, it’s sometimes important to know what you are doing. The old kink clubs of yore, like The Vault or The Mineshaft, are no longer around for the enlightened or the curious voyeur. Kink has been relegated to the very two-dimensional world of the internet with occasional get-togethers at secret spots. There are still parties where sex is the overt goal, but not like it was.

The world wide web serves as our hidden playground, our dark half of the brain. It is a fantasy world where anything can be found, but most of us like the idea of meeting our marker face to face. Internet profiles, as shocking as this may sound are, sometimes, exaggerated. How do you find that special someone who can push your buttons the way you like them pushed? For those with kink on the brain, it’s become harder to find like-minded individuals to play with at real live social gatherings. Domi Dollz events at the very least will gather like-minded people and show them how to play safe, and learn the skills to do it right. They will be whipping attendees into shape this Thursday from 7 to 11 at the Museum of Sex. When in doubt, wear black. I chatted with Ms. Mona Rogers, Cheri Dubois, and Ms. Nina Payne, and naively asked them about it all.

Cheri Dubois didn’t say much, but I suspect she may be the type that talks softly but carries a big, well you fill in the blank, this Thursday.

Am I wrong in saying that you’re lifestyle dominatrixes? 
NP: Not really, particularly this group that’s sitting here. I myself have been a dominatrix for ten years, and started training mistresses in New York City about five years ago. But Cheri Dubois, she does more modeling and performance art and she also in her spare time is a yoga instructor. She just kind of embraces the kink lifestyle. 
MR: Although I am in the profession, I’ve pretty much been playing since I was in high school, and I do embrace the more lifestyle aspects of it also. 

I understand that a great many Americans dabble in this, but it’s sort of a secret, underground thing. Years ago, the police department of the city of New York deemed it a very bad thing, and started busting all the dungeons. This S&M lifestyle, this predilection, this kink, is a taboo in our society, but many practice or want to practice it. But somehow, it’s shoved into the corners. Is it that good, or should it be embraced?
NP: What Domi Dollz is about, is actually showing the public that not only is pain associated with kink, but there are many levels of kink. Most people have had some exposure to kink, whether it’s talking dirty or dressing up in lingerie, or tying up your boyfriend and doing a striptease. Not all elements of kink have to revolve around the dominatrix and pain and that sort of thing. We think it’s always best to educate the public if they want to learn more about kink and specific techniques.

In the Roman times, people seemed more open with orgies, and bisexuality was more accepted. No one even thought about these things. We’re living in a very structured, religiously dominated time. Yet, I think there’s a revolution going on. If you go online, kink toys like vibrators are becoming more and more sophisticated, and more readily available. 
MR: Well, now we have the technology, so now we have the power. It’s just an evolution, that’s how I look at it. If you look at artwork, they started out with only different forms and mediums. The cavemen were painting on walls, and then we moved to canvases, and so on and so forth. So it’s been around for millions of years.  

Yea, sex has been around for a while.
MR: Even kink. I was looking up certain historical facts for our class, and it goes back to 9th century BC. Kink was actually associated with religion. 

I read somewhere that the Emperor Tiberius spent like half his treasury on pornography, that he procured from Persia and China. So, kink has been around a long time. People think kinkily.
NP: What’s kinky to someone might be completely run-of-the-mill for somebody else. So we have to ask each other, would this be considered pretty risky? A little too much? Because in our classes we are dealing with so many novices that we want to make sure everyone feels comfortable and can receive the information that we’re giving them. 

Let’s talk about the event this Thursday.
NP: This is an introductory class, but we have a huge entertainment aspect to the class. It’s really an educational performance. We’re going to have all the ladies dressed up, greeting the guests in our lovely dominatrix gear, and we’re going to have little toy boys running around, welcoming the guests as well. Once we get the class started, it’s all about going over the history of BDSM, talking about the psychology behind it. We’re going to talk a little bit about how to prepare for your own session, or what your play partner can expect as far as safety goes. We’re also going to be teaching specific techniques, like spanking, flogging, cross whipping, face slapping, choking, tying someone up, sensory play, roll playing, attitude, and style, just to name a few. So we’re going to be touching on the whole spectrum, different kink options, and in the future we’re going to be having more intensive classes. This event is just a taste of what we have to offer from Domi Dollz. 
MR: I also wanted to say that though this is a beginners class, and is definitely on the lighter side, that that’s good. We want to use things like this as a springboard to enhance intimacy and communication in already established relationships. A step outside the norm, giving you broader options to create a greater connection with your partner. 
NP: Our main objective is for people to have fun. That’s all anyone has to worry about when they come to one of our performances. Guests have their own choice on how much they want to participate in the actual workshops. This is an interactive experience, but if they just want to sit back and be a voyeur, and just kind of take in all the information, that’s fine. We also have an option for people to come up and practice some spanking techniques, or practice tying someone up, that sort of thing. So it’s really up to the attendees as to what they want to experience. At the end of they day, we just want people to have a good time and walk away feeling like they had fun and experienced something different. 

You use the term BDSM, but bondage and sadomasochism are two different things, though sometimes they can be the same thing. Some people just like to be tied up, some people love pain. But isn’t most of this just about a power exchange?
MR: It’s not always about a power exchange.  There are different forms of play. People can be a bottom, but they’re not necessarily always submissive. They just like to be on the receiving end, or maybe they just like bondage and like the feel of being restricted. But, they’re not about submitting. Maybe for them, bondage feels like a really nice hug, and they’re in their own headspace with that, enjoying that moment, and the top is doing that for them. I put these ropes on you because I don’t want you to move. That’s different, that’s the power exchange. It doesn’t always have to be like that. When there’s an element of power exchange, I consider it more of an energy exchange than anything else. 

So it’s this Thursday, at the Museum of Sex. What time is it?
NP: It starts at seven and will run till around nine. 

Do you usually do after parties?
NP: We will be gathering at the Ace Hotel for drinks and cocktails if people want to ask us questions for one-on-one. 

How many doms will be there?
MR: It’s actually just Dollz, all types of women, not just dominatrixes. There will be about six Dollz and maybe about three little toy boys running around. 

Maybe four, I’m getting kind of excited.

Talking About Sexuality: Domi Dollz’ Nina Payne & Boxer Manny Pacquiao

There was a time when the artistic types that ran clubs saw pushing boundaries as their reason to be cheerful. Sure, everyone wanted to make loot and art. Being able to make money while being creative and thinking outside the box was what made that era great. Now few care about anything but the bottom line, and only a few Manhattan-based clubs embrace "the new,” DJs dumb down their sets to please bottle buyers with black cards, and door people let the mundane spenders in as VIPs. There was a time when designers like Galliano and Gaultier took inspiration from clubland. Fashion innovators like Lee Bowery, Kabuki Starshine, and, yes, Michael Alig influenced collections as their own fashion sense pushed toward the edge. Michael famously went over that edge and with it came a retreat from it.

Tonight, at Santos’ Party House, is the House of Diehl’s “Style Wars: The Style Battle Championships,” 7:30pm. It’s going to be a blast. There will be a live competition which will include some friends of mine the amazing Domi Dollz. I will be there cheering them on as they whip the audience into a frenzy. There will be DJs and cocktails and even Vice Magazine giveaways. This is an invite-only affair so RSVP here and hope for the best.

The Domi Dollz are out there exploring the edge of sexuality. As they push that edge, they are also teaching mainstream America to embrace it by meeting it halfway. They hold fabulous parties and regular educational soirees at the Museum of Sex. I caught up with the beautiful Nina Payne and asked her all about it.

You are competing in this style wars thingy at Santos. Do teams make clothes and dress up and whoever has the best outfit wins or is it more than that?…. Tell me all about it.
It’s much more intense than that! Teams have to create head-to-toe looks from the most random items like an umbrella, a garbage bag, or a shower curtain. The more "out there" and crazy, the better! It is the truest test of creativity- all done live, in four minutes, in front of a rowdy screaming audience and blaring club music. It’s fierce!

Style Wars was created by House of Diehl, and this event is a throw-back to the ‘80s when MCs or break dancers from different crews used to battle each other for respect and recognition. Style Wars takes that concept and uses fashion instead. Fusing the intensity and spontaneity of a rap battle with the glamour of a fashion show – and even the excitement of extreme sports – House of Diehl invented "style battling" as the newest opportunity for rising fashion designers to make their name in the competitive arena of design. And tonight, Monday, June 11th, Domi Dollz will be ready to rumble at Santos Party House (96 Lafayette St). As we battle other teams, we’ll show audiences that we can create edgy and beautiful looks in about four minutes – right on the spot!

Domi Dollz fans get in for FREE. Just RSVP. But be sure to get there early as it’s expected to sell out fast. Doors open at 7:30pm and the battle begins at 8:45. 

Tell me about Domi Dollz today. Of course we have been following your events for a minute now. What’s coming up? What is evolving in your events?
Domi Dollz has been busier than ever! We were recently featured on ABC’s 20/20, and after this Style Wars event, we will be touring the US this summer. LA, San Francisco, Chicago and Vegas, baby! With the recent success of Fifty Shades of Grey, Domi Dollz’ mainstream style of kink is in demand. In fact, we will be coming out with our own book as well. It’s called Kinky Amour and it is an introduction to kink for the woman who’s looking to enhance her love and sex life. As in our workshops, we always bring our knowledge of kink to the public in a very accessible and fun way.

Sharon Needles won the Ru Paul’s Drag Race competition. She was certainly the edgiest of the contestants. Is the edge becoming more important to us as a society and, if so, why? Is the world ready for Domi Dollz on a big scale?
 We are big Sharon Needle fans and love what she has brought to the main stage. Edge is great as it keeps the audiences on their toes. But with that being said there is also a very genuine energy that Sharon Needles projects that people can identify with and I think that’s the true root to her success. Some think that we are quite edgy too. However, Domi Dollz’ objective is to bring kink into the mainstream in order to create a safe environment for people to explore their sexualities. Whether Domi Dollz is engaging in fashion, music, or education, at the end of the day we are just doing what we love and trying to make this world a happier place!

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What to wear? While we’re talking about sex and sexuality I can’t help but mention the defeat of boxer Manny Pacquiao to Timothy Bradley on Saturday night and his statements about gay people recently. Pacquiao has won titles in eight different weight divisions. I don’t follow sports much but was aware of Mr. Pacquiao’s dominance of his world. He reportedly "told the National Conservative Examiner that he doesn’t agree with President Barack Obama’s support for same sex marriage” and was quoted as reciting Bible verse Leviticus 20:13, which says “If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They must be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.”

Manny is a congressman in his native Philippines and reported to be a devout Catholic. He denied he made this statement with his version of the "some of my best friends are gay” defense. I read that he said
“I didn’t say that, that’s a lie…I didn’t know that quote from Leviticus because I haven’t read the Book of Leviticus yet,” and “I’m not against gay people… I have a relative who is also gay. We can’t help it if they were born that way. What I’m critical of are actions that violate the word of God. I only gave out my opinion that same-sex marriage is against the law of God.”

Since Pacquiao’s defeat, Bob Arum, the events promoter, has been screaming for an investigation. Millions seem to agree and are demanding the truth. It was a split decision, with two judges saying Bradley won. Many knowledgeable boxing folk, including former pugilistic judges, had Pacquiao winning by a wide margin. In an article published in The Wall Street Journal, the writer called it "THE WORLD-WIDE MANNY PACQUIAO FREAKOUT.” From paragraph one: "The reaction was universally apologetic, with promoter Bob Arum calling the decision a ‘death knell’ for boxing and plenty of other spectators suggesting a more sinister motivation behind the surprising decision."

Did the uproar over his alleged homophobic remarks distract Manny? Could the "gay mafia" have gotten to those refs? Did God get involved and punish Manny for using his message of love incorrectly? I pray for Manny. I hope he grows from this and overcomes his reported hatred. I read he is headed to the Holy Land while his next fight is figured out.

I have read my Bible and offer him this : “Work out your own salvation with fear and trembling.“ Philippians, 2.12. When he finally does get around to Leviticus he might note: "Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself." Leviticus 19:18.

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Tonight: Maxim’s ‘World’s Most Beautiful Women’ Party, Domi Dollz’ ‘Shades of Kink’

If Maxim has decided to throw a party for the WORLD’S MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMEN. who am I to argue. They have named the HOT 100 and made a list and I checked it (twice). Some actual top 100s are going to be at this event being held tonight at The Gallery at Dream Downtown hotel, 355 West 16th Street. The music will be brought to you by DJ Vice, underlying that this is a big event – a hot event. Among the attendees is the number one hottest girl in the world from their list (my list has Amanda at the very top): Bar Refaeli. Others who you can strike out with include: Abby Elliot (Saturday Night Live), April Rose (model), Bria Murphy (model), Claire Coffee (General Hospital), Jessica Rafalowski (model), Jenny “JWOWW” Farley (MTV’s The Jersey Shore), Katrina Bowden (30 Rock), Nadia G (TV personality), Rebecca Mader (actress), and many more. This list thing is 12 years young and for the first time ever, the Maxim readers made the selection. What to wear?

Some prophet once said beauty is "in the eye of the beholder" and another said "beauty is only skin deep.” This beholder’s eyes think beauty must have skin covered with tattoos. For me, it don’t mean thing if it don’t have that sting. So I’m sure to find hottie heaven at the 6th Annual NYC Zombie Crawl in my native Williamsburg, Brooklyn this Sunday. It’s presented by the new Resident Evil video game and the BBURG requisite Sailor Jerry Rum and Pabst Blue Ribbon. People will be running around in Halloween in May gear with the grand finale at Public Assembly, 70 North 6th Street, where the girls of burningangel.com will offer up Strip for Pain "America’s Most Dangerous Game Show.” For me, this trumps Maxim’s hot list, but I can appreciate both sides of the coin… even it’s an edge.

Public Assembly will hold live performances by Bikini Carwash (9pm) and Fucking Bullshit (9:45pm). There will be a Rigor Mortis Burlesque Revue, prizes for the best costumes…well, you get the idea. The Zombie Crawl begins at 3:30pm at The Trash Bar, 256 Grand Street, where makeup technicians will, for a small fee ($5), make you look undead. At 3:30 pm on a Sunday in Williamsburg, everyone looks a little undead anyway. Then it’s on to The Grand Victory, 245 Grand Street, where additional Zombie action will be rampant. By 6pm it’s a march down Bedford Avenue, where all will pop into Spike Hill, 186 Bedford, for "flesh hook" performances by Nassau Chainsaw DisGraCeLand Demolition Committee. All will gather after in McCarren Park for photo-ops and a chance to confuse the tourists and nouveau hipsters who discovered Williamsburg by watching HBO’s epic series Girls.

If the Sailor Jerry Rum and PBR’s haven’t gotten the best of me and mine, we’ll head to Bowery Poetry Club, 306 Bowery at Houston, to take in Linda Simpson’s new party "Exhibit A,” Sunday at 10pm, $5.

Exhibit A promises to take "the spectator on an absurd and erotic journey.” That sounds a lot like my third marriage, so I’m there. This is a last-Sunday-of-every- month affair, which sounds like my second marriage. On stage, there will be experimental drag rules, high-concept hostess Sylvia London, sexual outlaw Alexis Blair Penney, and non-stop butch and femme orgy by Dollhaus and Dj Chris P.

Tonight, (and I have told you about this before; pay attention or a spanking may be in order), Domi Dollz presents “Shades of Kink” at – where else – the Museum of Sex, 233 5th Avenue at 27th Street. This event will show you the ropes and other ways to spice up your love life. It’s a perfect place for a couple looking for answers to all the wrong questions and for singles looking for Mr. or Ms. right or wrong. If you have been looking for love in all the wrong places, then this place is perfect for you. It is way wrong – and right.

What I’m Missing: Zac Efron, Domi Dollz, and Rob Zombie

I’ve been a busy bee of late and have missed so many events that I would have loved to attend. Most notably, I couldn’t attend the Magadeth-Rob Zombie concert at the PNC in Jersey. That hurt.

Saturday I was DJing at Bantam for Tatjana Gellert’s birthday bash. It was hours of music from Donna Summer to Rob Zombie to LCD Sound System to Blank Dogs to Iggy to Tuxedo Moon. I was all over the place for the fun and beautiful crowd. The only place I couldn’t be was with my friend Robert Escalera  who is in from LA to offer up a film and cocktail event with the cast and crew of a movie produced by his favorite charity, the Zeno Mountain Farm.

According to its site:

"Zeno Mountain Farm is an organization that runs camps for people with and without disabilities. Everyone works together so all can experience a life full of creativity, adventure, fun and community. Typically, each camp has a theme that helps to focus and unify the group. The themes include but are not limited to filmmaking, theatre, high challenge sports, music, adventure travel and art."

The event was at the Tribeca Cinemas, 54 Varick Street. The movie is called Finding Zac Efron.

"When Zeno Film camp cast member and Zac Efron-uberfan Elizabeth gets sick, the Zeno gang springs into action. They decide to find Zac Efron and get him to go cheer Elizabeth up. They scour the city of Los Angeles to find Zac… But what they discover is beyond anything they ever expected! Finding Zac Efron stars all the Zeno Gang, plus cameos by Ted Danson, Lou Ferrigno, Mario Lopez, Joe Manganiello, and others… Is Zac in the film? … You have to come and see for yourself!"

Well, I couldn’t come and see, and I don’t know if Zac was in it since I was at Bantam. I urge you to check it out. Robert worked with me at all my hot spots of the ‘90s. His role varied, from my right hand to the heel of my left foot. He was almost as invaluable as he thought he was. He is joining me at the Bowery Poetry Club for BINGO tonight. I’ll get there early to explain to him how to play the game.

On Thursday I will DJ again, this time at Bantam and, as usual, Hotel Chantelle. Therefore, I’ll miss that night’s Domi Dollz event at the Museum of Sex. It starts at 7pm and is the most fun… for people interested in sex. There are sexy Doms and subs and they serve aphrodisiac cocktails and everybody laughs and feels frisky. They are so good at it that, they have, in the past, been able to teach an old dog like me… some new tricks.

Kink For Dummies: Domi Dollz Launch Fundraiser For Their First Book

Down here in the Caribbean, it’s hard to believe that the holiday season is in full force. A friend up north was talking about snow while my main concern is tan lines. For the record, there won’t be any…it’s like that. I’ll be filing little glimpses as I sip tropical fruit drinks and practice the art of not getting caught staring at the bikinis while laying out next to Amanda. Amanda can be scary.

Speaking of scary…Sandy not only destroyed homes, ‘hoods, and a sense of security; it threw the calendar out with the bath water. Many people and businesses plan their holiday parties at the last minute, right before Thanksgiving, and many, bolstered by an improved economy and needing a reason to be cheerful, are scrambling for a night date in a hot spot. Domi Dollz, a group that lives and teaches a real life 50 Shades of Grey lifestyle, is one such group. They will have a super-secret seasonal soiree as soon as they find a place to hang their hat…er, whip.

This year they have a lot to be cheerful about as they are completing their first real-deal book, Kinky Amour, on the subject. Publishing a book is an expensive process and they are trying to raise funds to complete. I  asked Domi Dollz founder and president Nina Payne to tell me all about it:

The fundraiser. Tell me about it.
Someone had mentioned I should try a fundraiser a couple months ago when I was faced with the huge budget of getting this book together. Domi Dollz isn’t just trying to self-publish a book; we’re also creating video tutorials and taking beautiful photographs to show readers how they can practice kinky techniques. We are raising funds so we can properly advertise and promote this book to help make the world a sexier place. Check out the fundraiser here.

What is Kinky Amour?
Kinky Amour is an introduction into kink that explores everything from communication, psychology, and safety, to specific techniques like spanking, bondage, and role-playing. This book has been designed to inspire the reader and help direct her or him to discovering what works best for them and whomever they’re with.

So what types of things will you be covering in the book?
We’re covering a lot of ground in our first book, which is so exciting, beginning  with understanding what kink really is and the reminder that no one should feel ashamed if they are curious or interested in it. Kink is about fun, creativity, and, most of all, trust; it can really liberate an individual and especially strengthen the bond of a relationship. But we will also be covering lots of specific techniques likes spanking, flogging, bondage, dirty talk, role playing, and much more.

What makes this book different than the other kink books out there?
Kinky Amouris not only a book, but it will also be an eBook that has beautiful photography and video tutorials. In fact, it will be the first eBook about kink with video tutorials which you can download to your computer, KindleFire, or iPad. We’ve structured it in a sort of "Kink For Dummies”-style  way, and it will feature personal stories, kinky tips, and other fun stuff from myself, Ms. Mona Rogers, and other fellow Domi Dollz.

So this is a collective effort from all the Domi Dollz.
Yes, our fans will be happy to hear that this book will have contributions from other Domi Dollz, all of whom you can check out here. My biggest help was Ms. Mona Rogers; she came in while I was writing the final draft and really elevated it to the next level. We are very excited by what we have.

What motivated you to write this book?
Aside from wanting to bring a positive message to the world, we were also motivated to write this book after getting feedback from people all over the world interested in our workshops, but weren’t able to attend. We hope this book will bring people an opportunity to learn at their own pace in the privacy of their own home, and hopefully help them embrace their sexualities.

When will the book be out?
February 2013. We are currently shooting all the video and photography, and it’s been a blast watching it all come together.

Tell me about the costs of producing this tome. How do people get involved?
Domi Dollz is on Indiegogo to raise funds to bring this book to life. Self-publishing is no easy task; we’re not only producing high-quality videos and photos, but also advertising it, which has an added cost. It’s expensive to make your dreams come true! We are hoping others who support kink and sexual education will also support our cause. All the money raised will go toward the creation, publishing, and promotion of Kinky Amour. When you check out the fundraiser, you’ll see our sexy video explaining it all. People can use their credit cards or Paypal to donate on Indiegogo. We also accept money orders,  so just email info@DomiDollz.com one of our Dollz, and she can arrange that. We are aiming to raise $10,000, but honestly EVERY DOLLAR COUNTS and gets us closer to our dream. We are grateful for it all and offer perks for different-sized donations. If all the kinksters in NYC donated just $1, we would have way more than ten grand! 

Tonight: Partying with Erik Foss, Domi Dollz, & Shell Sheddy

I’m not going to sweat it, but I did RSVP for multiple events tonight that I can’t possibly physically attend unless "Scottie" starts to "beam me" around town. Two of them are uptown and the other two are downtown. Guess which two get my fabulous face.

OK, I’m gonna try. First on the list is a group show opening that includes my bro (we even have bro tattoos) Erik Foss. The show WAVE is presented by MISC and includes artists Judy Chicago, Michael St. John, Peter Alexander, Amany Ahmad, Shelter Serra, Colton Brown, Tom Forkin, and Angel Otero. It’s at the Fuller Building, 41 east 57th street, suite 702. If you’re into it, email info@misc-nyc.com or call 917 370 6423. While I’m up there I might as well scoot over to Hudson Terrace, 621 West 46th Street, for the APM Models’ Summer Party. I’m tight with Penny Basch and love their events.

Or, I just may stay south and pop into the last Domi Dollz evening for the summer at the Museum of Sex. These wonderful gals never fail to stand and deliver. They are sexy and sweet – sometimes – and the event promises lots of "boy toys.” The people I have sent to these soirees tell me that they can be life changing for them and theirs. It is quite educational, with zero chance of falling asleep in class.

I will surely attend photographer Shell Sheddy’s opening at Bar 82, 136 Second Avenue. This event starts at 7pm and ends at 11pm, after which the whole posse will scoot over to Hotel Chantelle for the after party, where I will DJ rock and roll with Sam Valentine. The show is titled "LES Images: The Creativity, Community and Struggle Continues," and promises that "we will be graced with Sheddy’s breath-taking visuals of raw humanity and real world, life-affirming spirit."

I also want to mention a fundraiser that I am honored to lend my name to. Old friend Don Welch asked me to help out:

"I need your help with this fundraiser I’m doing for Gwen McCrae; she suffered a massive stroke in London (June 3rd) & is paralyzed on her left side. The family is trying to get her home to Florida & it’s really expensive. I would like to put your name on the invite as a supporter & would love for you to attend. The date of the event is Tuesday August 21st @ ANJA on Little West 12th Street, NYC. Colonel Abrams & Melba Moore so far are the host, but lots of folks are calling in. Let me know what you think. Thanks."

Gwen McCrae is famous for her hit "FUNKY SENSATION.” The dance community has gotten on board big time. The outpouring of support, and the DJs and talent that have since gotten involved speaks volumes of the love and class always shown by Gwen. I will do a follow-up post just before the event to give you more details, but I wanted to get this to you early enough for you to purchase tickets and support this fine lady. Tickets can be acquired from www.ticketweb.com. Call 866 468 7619 for more information.

Ramones Mania: Marky Ramone Performs Sunday, Johnny’s Tome Comes Out Monday

Game of Thrones is just days away. For millions, it will define their Sunday nights. I, alas, will have to TiVo it because I will be swept to The Bell House on a wave of rock and roll nostalgia and friendship. Marky Ramone is in town with his band Blitzkrieg and they will be playing that great Gowanus venue. It will be Ramones’ songs 1-2-3- 4, after each other and it is as close to the real deal as can possibly be. Alas, Joey, Dee Dee, and Johnny have passed on but their legacy will be remembered – Ramone right at this show. Marky is touring and I don’t get to see him much. We are trying to get a dinner in, but it will probably have to wait until he returns from a European tour which will take him and Blitzkrieg to Greece, Romania, Bulgaria, Asia, Spain, Germany, United Kingdom, The Netherlands, and Italy with more dates to be announced. I’m going to catch up with him at the shows and ask him a bunch of questions for Monday’s post.

It’s a very big week for Ramones fans. Johnny Ramone’s posthumous tome Commando: The Autobiography of Johnny Ramone is coming out. Johnny’s wife Linda and pre-Marky drummer and original member Tommy Ramone will be on hand along with John Cafiero (editor and Johnny Ramone autobiography chief-of-staff). It will be at the Tribeca Barnes and Noble (97 Warren Street) on Friday, March 30th where someone, not clear which of them, will be signing books. I will read this book with great interest. Johnny and I were friends for a long while. I got along with Linda just fine when she was Joey’s girlfriend, but things soured (I think) when I was double-dating, with Johnny fixing him up with my friend Lisa. That stuff probably never made the autobiography anyway. It was before I knew about him and Linda. We were hanging at clubs like The Peppermint Lounge. Johnny was very conservative politically and we had many conversations about his right and my left leanings, but we always got along despite that. He was a very sharp guy and, as far as I could tell, the absolute leader of the band. He held them together with his business sense and maniacal devotion to rock and roll.
 
Things got bad when Linda made her shift from Joey to him, but the band played on. The Joey Ramone song "The KKK Took My Baby Away" is thought by some to refer to Johnny stealing Joey’s baby away. I last hung with Johnny a few years ago at the Hudson Hotel Library. He was playing pool with Nicolas Cage, who he had become friends with. Nicolas was really friendly, going out of his way to engage me, but Johnny was quite cold. I questioned him about it as we had never been like that. I was in trouble then and obviously this bothered him, so I bolted. I was surprised when he caught up with me down the long hallway leading to the exit. He wanted to hear my side and I returned with him back to the lounge. We talked frankly, no-holds-barred, as was his norm. It got heated but it was hashed out. We left as friends. I was saddened deeply when he became ill and died. After every show back in the day, I would go backstage and he would turn to me and ask me if it was good and I’d tell him the truth. He knew I would always tell it like it was. He was obsessed with making his fans happy. He was visibly upset when a mistake was made or if he felt one of the other band members had flawed or didn’t share in his enthusiasm. I’m going to pick up a copy of the book but won’t need any signature on it.
 
Domi Dollz
 
In a couple of weeks, on a Thursday before my DJ gig at Hotel Chantelle, I will join the Domi Dollz at the Museum of Sex. They will attempt to teach the sexually needy how to:
create more than just a moment in the bedroom, but an entire experience that will leave your partner begging for more. NYC’s most famed kink experts will explore ideas and techniques from setting the mood, sexy games, and thinking outside the bedroom to the art of the striptease, kinky foreplay, and fantasy scenarios. Enjoy sipping tasty aphrodisiac cocktails while the gorgeous Domi Dollz seduce and inspire you to create your own seduction experience.
OralFix: Aphrodisiac Cafe
Museum of Sex | Lower Level
233 5th Avenue @ 27th St
New York, NY 10016
 
Thurs, April 12th @ 7pm
Admission : $25
Seating is limited
 
The Domi Dollz are simply sexy. They are gorgeous, experienced, intelligent women who talk the talk like they know how to walk the walk. Come, please, please…please.

13 Questions for Friday the 13th

It is Friday the 13th and, yes, I am getting a "13 ball" tattooed on my arm from Magic Cobra Tattoo Society.  The line on Driggs and South 1st was long and totally fun for the inexpensive permanents. They ink for 24 hours starting at midnight and I gave them mixed CDs for the occasion …some biker/tattoo music to ease the pain.

It may be Triskaidekaphobia that has me not willing to write today, to commit to a story, say anything I might regret later. I was up until 8am at Magic Cobra haven and woken at 7am Thursday morning. That question from Dirty Harry keeps banging around in my head "…But being this is a .44 Magnum, the most powerful handgun in the world, and would blow your head clean off, you’ve got to ask yourself one question: ‘Do I feel lucky? Well do ya, punk?’” Well I feel anything but lucky today and the entire world away from my pillow feels like a .44 Magnum; I am absolutely feeling like a punk, so forgive me if I keep this to 13 possibly dumb questions with uneven answers.

Q1) Was it the luck of the Irish that got that fabulous Ballinger crew open almost immediately at Webster Hall after a stabbing at a hardcore show, while  Greenhouse/W.i.P. got shuttered harder and longer for a bottle-throwing incident?
A1) I think it’s a matter of a long history of working well with the community that has Webster doing its thing, while Greenhouse has been way more annoying to some. The fact that the Webster stabber and stabbees were white and the bottle throwers and brawlers at Greenhouse were black never crossed my mind.

Q2) Are the rumors that Pink Elephant may close for August true, and was it bad luck or bad planning to open a Euro-based club in the beginning of the summer or was it planned like this all along?
A2) I’m too tired to ask them the question today and you know what will be said anyway.

Q3) Is The Double Seven just being unlucky or is it the weather, or is it just fabulous and not as confused as my personal confusion perceives it?  A source who made me swear to say nothing about what he told me about The Double Seven will be happy that I respect his wishes.
A3) Mark Baker and crew will tell me how wonderful it is over there if I had the strength to pick up the phone so why should I bother to call?

Q4) So why can’t they call it Bungalow 8 and what did Amy Sacco ever do to be the focus of such silliness?
A4) She is so fabulous and smart and fun and if they want to call it "8"…wink, wink, I’m going to go anyway. Hey, they can call it 13 and I’m there.

Q5) Is the Xtravaganza Ball really going to happen next Sunday, July 22, and have they really asked me to be a judge?
A5) OMG ! Yes ! What to wear? I must look …legendary.

Q6) Have those wonderful and erotic Domi Dollz fallen into a pile of good luck now that every skirt on the planet has read Fifty Shades of Grey?
A6) I missed their monthly soiree/seminar this past Thursday at the Museum of Sex but predict they may soon need to get a bigger room to whip those novices into shape.

[Editor’s Note: I went, and it was amazing. Those Dollz know how to whip you and their leather-collared, half-naked boys into shape.]

Q7) Am I really going to do 13 of these?
A7) No, seven is more than half of 13, I think… and considering the condition my tattoo is in, it’s all you can expect. I’m going to crash…get my tattoo from Adam Korothy at Magic Cobra, rinse, and repeat.

Corrupting Youth: What Have I Done

When I’m out and about, someone invariably introduces me to their friends or tells my gal that they have known me for 15 or 20 years, and that they were in my clubs when they were 14 or 16 years old. I think a lot of this is a means to disguise their real age, but unfortunately I also believe that they are too often telling the truth. There was a time when the drinking age was 18, but that was a long time ago. It’s been 21 since ’85. The policy at my clubs was 21 and older, but the reality was often very different. Security didn’t have sophisticated ID scanners and they were often myopic or suffered from hyperopia – farsightedness. Club operators suffered from hyperopia towards youngins as a policy. If they were hot and the ID was passable, they were passed through the red velvets. We all knew the models weren’t 21; the sharp and hot ones got through as well. They were watched carefully. If they misbehaved or fell in with the wrong types, they were banished to lesser clubs. It was the times. These days, clubland still sneaks in the young and the beautiful, and the promoters often serve as babysitters.

I have just learned that although I am long departed from the nightlife scene, I still have the ability to corrupt. My editor Bonnie Gleicher was introduced to the Domi Dollz scene while innocently editing articles I wrote about their events. She has now fallen under their spell, as witnessed by her feature article in today’s BlackBook. She has befriended my friend Nina Payne and others in the crew, and I am torn between feelings of jealousy and being a proud father. We will see how these feelings pain out…I mean pan.