Chris Brown grabbed a microphone from a DJ and shared his highly sought-after relationship tips with a club.
The singer, who punched and strangled his girlfriend Rihanna in a vicious 2009 attack, told the audience at Emerson Theater in Hollywood on Thursday morning that the key to harmony is any straight relationship is for the girl to know who owns her pussy: her boyfriend. TMZ has video of Dr. Phil himself advising:
"Every guy in this building has said one thing to their female. If you’re not an insecure n***a and you let her have fun with her friends, I applaud you. You gotta say that one thing to her and I made this shit up, [sings] don’t make me have to tell you again, that that’s my pussy baby! It’s mine babe, babe, mine. Don’t make me have to tell you again, that that’s my pussy, baby. It’s mine, girl, it’s mine, girl, it’s mine. … so you better not give it away! So every person in this motherfucking building, if you got a bad bitch you better say that shit to her, or she might fuck another n***a."
In other news, Ryan Seacrest has reported that Rihanna is planning to take a year-long break from the music industry to make her terrible personal decisions in private.
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The New York Post got its hands on the new memoir by music honcho Tommy Mottola and the paper’s most depressing article today is a long piece detailing all the ways Mottola outlined his abuse of ex-wife and ex-employee, Mariah Carey. Mottola first came into contact with then-18-year-old singer through a mix tape. He might have fallen in love with — and set his sights on making money from — her voice, but he very quickly turned their relationship into a sexually exploitative, controlling and emotionally abusive one.
As the Post explains, Carey had just graduated from high school and was working as a backup singer when Mottola set his sights on her, promising to make her bigger than Madonna and Michael Jackson. But first he made Mariah break up with her boyfriend, who was also her collaborator; he assumed control of all her producers and song writers; and he refused to allow her time off to relax and enjoy her success.
After the couple married, the abuse only worsened. She couldn’t collaborate with who she wanted to work with; she was forced to do albums she didn’t want to do. In a classic move of isolating her from her friends and family, he relegated her to a home in New York suburbs, which she referred to as "Sing Sing."
The Post describes how at one point early in the relationship, Mottola bragged that his therapist warned him to stay out of Mariah Carey’s pants, shrink-ishly pointing out both that he was married and that the singer was basically still a teenager. (She is still basically a teenager, kind of.) Instead, he trotted Carey out on his arm at an awards show where she took home several awards just because he knew his shrink would be watching. This fits perfectly with what we know about abusers: instead of being remorseful, they’re actually quite proud of themselves for getting away with it.
The Post quotes directly from Mottola’s memoir, Hitmaker, out later this month about how little remorse he feels — nay, he feels justified:
“If it seemed like I was controlling, I apologize. Was I obsessive? Yes. But that was also part of the reason for her success.”
What an asshole.
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Oprah Winfrey is one smart cookie, so she probably knows that people who stay in abusive relationships are not helped by criticism and judgment. I would like to think this is why Oprah spoke with Extra yesterday and said "so be it," as she has "no judgment" if Rihanna and Chris Brown get back together. Which is no longer an "if," really, as the pair has been photographed making out.
Oprah spoke to Extra about her Oprah’s Next Chapter conversation with the pop star, in which Rihanna said she still loves Brown and is devoted to helping him get batter, whatever that means. "The main thing for me is he’s at peace," RiRi said. "I’m not at peace if he’s not happy or he’s still lonely."
If Oprah was thinking Classic abused woman thing to say!, she kept it to herself, both then and now. She said to Extra yesterday:
You know what I loved about that interview is that she came with a big, wide open heart. She was in the space of forgiveness. And that she learned a lesson, that she was repeating with Chris Brown exactly what she needed to learn from her father. [Rihanna’s father was physically abusive to her mother during the singer’s childhood] … "I think that if she is prepared to deal with that and is prepared to help him help himself then so be it. I have no judgment about it. That’s why I can sit there and have such a great time with her because I do all my interviews with no judgment whatsoever. If that’s how you choose to lead your life, that’s really okay.
Of course it behooves Oprah to have "no judgment" as an interviewer, both to her subjects who she doesn’t want to alienate and to the public. I get that. But I beg to disagree with her that it’s "really okay" that a woman who was viciously beaten is back with her abuser. And it isn’t "really okay" that Rihanna wants to "help him help himself," given what we know about Psychology 101: people won’t change unless they want to change. Rihanna is going to do what Rihanna wants to do, including handholding a man-child with anger management issues. But there was an opportunity for Oprah, in this interview, to say something about how the cycle of violence affects women who’ve been abused.
Oprah should know better — and I think does know better. Shame on her for not speaking up more forcefully, even if it means missing an exclusive down the road.
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